Believing in Prince charming…
“ The story of a girl who believed in the prince but turned out it was not a fairy tale”
It’s been quite a while that I wanted to talk to you about what my previous relationship which truly shaped me and shaped my point of view on relationships. I was the kind of girl who believed in “Happily ever after” and prince charming…you know what I mean. When I love, I love truly, I give my whole and sometimes well most of the time, I end up disappointed.
Sometimes I ask myself..was I the one expecting too much? Well in some cases yes but the truth is I never really found someone who truly and genuinely loved me and took time to understand me. Looking back at my previous relationships most of them were quite shallow. I never really took time to build any kind of friendship with the boys I was with. So if I have an advice for you it’s to try to know the person before you start dating them. At the beginning I told myself, well dating is this phase where you try to understand and build a friendship. However, I think that when two people are dating, they are already building something else, thinking about how this person can be my ideal or the type of person I would like to be with in the future.
We are already in the process of thinking about something else. And yes, it was my mistake! If I had taken time to build a friendship I would have known about this side or that side of his personality. I would have had more perspective on things and I would have chosen differently. But when you are young, in love and looking for prince charming, you are just blind by everything. I was always thinking about the side of his personality I didn’t like and told myself: well Mel, you can probably change him! Boy I was wrong. You can never truly change a person who isn’t ready to change.
This relationship I am talking to you about was devastating for me. It broke all my ideals and the dreams I had regarding the “ONE”. I have grown in so many ways because now I know that until you are not happy and fully fulfilled you can never expect to be happy in another relationship. That person you are with can’t read your mind and will never know what you want until you can tell them clearly. That was my second mistake. Not telling things straight away because I was afraid of what he might think. So write that down, never be afraid to tell what’s on your mind. Don’t ignore those signs and listen to your intuition.
Third mistake I made: not listening to my intuition. I believe that women have a really powerful intuition. Most of the time, I follow and listen to my intuition. But in this relationship, I kept ignoring it and not listening to it. Why? well I don’t know why! I was so naive and innocent and always wanting things to work out! When there are bad signs, just talk about it and discuss it with your partner. If you start denying those signs, I am sure it will burst out and it could break your relationship.
“ Her intuition was her favorite superpower”
After all, I am still looking for a partner I can grow with, who will understand me and cherish me. Someone who will value me and the person I am and not try to change me. I am fed up of pleasing the other person! NO! Just be YOU. If there is something he doesn’t like about your personality and it’s something that defines you, then just let go of this person sis. You don’t deserve him.
It’s been more that one year and a half now that I am single and happy! I have defined my objectives and my mission, I know where I am heading and it’s the best feeling ever. I don’t need a man but of course, if a beautiful soul presents itself I won’t be afraid to take that first step. When you know who you are and your core values, never be afraid to try another time! Experiences shape us and there are here for a reason.
Looking back, I am so grateful and happy to have lived this heartbreak because I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I am now totally in love with the person I am becoming, I don’t look for anyone but I am not afraid to live another passionate relationship with the lessons I have learned from the previous ones.
So I hope my experience will help you believe that anything can happen and it’s not because you had bad relationships that the next ones will be bad! No, I am sure your soulmate is still out there! Well I don’t believe in Prince Charming anymore but I believe in two persons coming together as one and wanting the best for each other.
I believe in love always as it is the greatest force of nature ;)
Love
Mel
